Sunday, November 27, 2011
Do you have a child who is a teen?
My oldest, Lil Angel, is turning 11 in a few weeks and I have been thinking for some time now that it is time to talk to her about sex but I have no clue how to start and what to say. I mean I know about the birds and the bees, who ever came up with that anyway? But I thought this would be easier than it has been. Does anyone know a good book or have any suggestions to help me out? She is a bit immature and takes words very literally so I'm not sure what to say to her.
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ReplyDeleteHello dearest Joanna! Just wanted to thank you for stopping by my blog and saying hello! You made my day. OF COURSE, I am returning the follow. As for the sex talk...YIKERS!!!! I'm so, so, so glad my daughter is five. Her only concerns right now are whether or not she gets a Barbie doll for Christmas, and if I remembered to put a bow in her hair before dropping her off at preschool! HA! I know the day will come soon enough, however. I suppose my only advice would be to be open, answer her questions, make sure the talk is done in a comfortable environment, and use your mama instincts to guide you!
ReplyDeleteIf she doesn't learn it from you, than she'll learn from someone else or the media-right? Maybe start with love and marriage and go from there...good luck I haven't had to have that conversation yet! And, thanks for connecting-following you back!
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ReplyDeleteI wish I could help, but I would probably need help in that department myself. My son will be 3 soon and I'm already dreading the "talk". Thanks for the follow! Following you back. :)
ReplyDeleteLadies thank you so much and Aleisha, I think you are right. I will talk to her tonight.
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ReplyDeleteI have two boys, ages 17 and 18 and the sex talks started early, when my two year old looked up and said "I want this many children, and I'm going to name them, Jack and June and Jauntch, " and ticked off a name stating with the J sound for each of his ten fingers, then looked concerned and said, "I want this many babies, but I only have two eggs." So at first that was it, but there were always little questions, and little answers, especially as one was adopted and we started with, "One of you grew in my tummy and one in "her name"
with an 11 year old girl you have probably already shared more than you realize, so you just need to make sure she understands about starting her period, and that she has the right to keep her privates, private and the right to say "no" and the basics about where to get help if someone tries to touch her inappropriately or get her to do something se is uncomfortable with. Then a brief talk about sex/love and protection. It isn't comfortable, but by 11 she will already have a lot of ideas, and you want to make sure she hears from you, because she is hearing from TV, music and the kids around her.
Good Luck! And don't relax once it's over, because it is a topic that needs to come up more in depth again and again as she grows up.
Yes we had that talk when all of mine were little too, I guess I just don't know how to start. Yes you are right, something came up and mine and my husbands eyeballs nearly popped out of our heads, she wrote something and it was innocent but it made us realize we have to talk to her now.
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ReplyDeleteAS for your post, my son is 12 so the way I did it (and I can't say if it is RIGHT, just how I did it and it worked out okay) I waited until after they went over it in sex ed at school. Then I asked him if he had any questions, etc. Also, part of his sex ed class requirements was that he teach ME what he had learned and I had to answer the questions so I felt we really covered it well. Maybe you can try that....
I talked to her the other night so we are ok. I do like that for the class your son had to speak to you about it.
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